Otter’s medicine is feminine. Since everyone has a feminine side, let’s see what we can learn from Otter.
After giving birth, Mama Otter boots Daddy out of the den, so she can teach their little pups. Is this suggesting that there are times when we, too, need to focus on the feminine, in order to create optimal nurturing situations for other people and the child within?
Of course, if we do not develop our masculine side, we will not accomplish much in the external. That said, when we ignore the feminine, as the Western world is modeling, relationships suffer.
A secure relational attachment style is characterized by being in relationships where there is trust and emotional intimacy. There is an interconnectedness, which allows the freedom to share feelings without fearing judgment.
Take anger for example. Anger can be a gift, for it leads us to healthy boundaries, passions and even our deeper callings. Add too much masculinity, and our anger tempts us to become aggressive.
“Aggression may seem to be an inevitable outcome of anger, but in fact it is an avoidance of anger, and the hurt and vulnerability that are part of it.” From Robert Augustus Masters’ book, Emotional Intimacy
Another way we avoid emotional intimacy is being nicer, diverting attention away from the real issues. In the long run this stunts our growth, hurts the other and makes subsequent lessons more difficult.
Sea otters hold hands, so they will not drift too far from each other. This practice is called rafting.
When was the last time you rafted, reaching for another’s hand in collaboration? Have you ever shared your failures, fears and brightest dreams with anyone? Do you have a trusted other in your life now, or have you siloed yourself?
The feminine is vulnerable. It is about being and responding more than doing or initiating. When we are whole, there is a balance.
Otters bring joy. Like Medicine Mother Otter, home is a nurturing space where we feel free to be ourselves. In its healthiest expression, this dwelling place promotes growth, allows for mistakes and offers forgiveness.
Making Spirit Flesh*
How would you define home? Your soul family?