People, of various traditions, believe that love will heal the world. What would that kind of love look like? And what if it includes all of your broken pieces?
In his little book, How to Love, Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh references four elements of true love.
“The second element of true love is compassion. Compassion is the capacity to understand the suffering in oneself and in the other person. If you understand your own suffering, you can help him *(them) understand his *(theirs).”
At this time of year, Christians celebrate a savior being born. In the narrative, between Hope being born and resurrected, Jesus lives through various human experiences, including suffering. Could this story point a way through hardship to abundant living?
Most people want to avoid suffering and move straight to joy, or in Christian language, resurrection. But suffering can teach us how to truly love; and isn’t life more meaningful when it includes love?
Later in the story, Jesus willingly hangs on a cross. This is a powerful image of Love sharing in the suffering of broken people, feeling crucified by self-righteous judgement.
What keeps you from being in a collaborative relationship with Love? Fear? Self-protection?
Are you so focused on relieving suffering that you fail to see all that is being transformed in your broken pieces? Have you shared your sorrow with a trusted other and found relief in their support?
It is winter, in the northern hemisphere, when Christians celebrate Hope being birthed in darkness. Soon, spring will bring new life and resurrection, but not before Hope is crucified.
Christian or not, where do you see yourself in the narrative? And how can you become a healing presence to those around you? Try fully living into the joy of the season by offering lovingkindness to your own broken pieces. One day, you might even be able to compassionately meet another in their suffering.
A bit of wisdom: It is easy to do for others or to look for a rescuing savior. To collaborate with Love and suffer with another; however, is true life-saving love.
*my words
Making Spirit Flesh*
Consider Lovingkindness being born in the darkness in your own personal broken pieces. If you are suffering now, how is this difficult time inviting a hope-filled compassion for you and other people?