Waiting Was

Continued healing: “You’re not dealing with this!” It seemed, to her, that I was doing nothing to correct my situation. For me, waiting was the work. I needed to catch up with myself; to consider the things in my life … Read More

No Room in the Inn

Continued from Alienated Parts: Three caregivers, made a special trip to her room to say, “You are the hands and feet of Jesus.” Two weeks later there was no room in the inn. In the Jesus story, she had gone … Read More

Alienated Parts

Continued from Mourning: Our alienated parts cry out and we admit a sense of powerlessness. We persist forward, asking for help, often to find additional suffering. “Sell them equipment. Prescribe medication. Keep our patients coming back.”   These were management’s orders … Read More


I once quietly boasted about the ways I denied my ego, until I realized that those acts of martyrdom were born of pride. Sometimes seeing opens us to mourning. To get through to the other side, I had to better … Read More

Little Lovers

In the Christian tradition, Infinite Love came to show us the way. Like any reputable guide, Jesus did not want his followers to forever live in His shadow, as much as to become. In becoming little lovers, we save our … Read More

Staying Power

Her face captivated me. At first glance I might have used words like meek or endearing. In regard to this lifetime, she was advancing in years. What was the secret to her staying power? This fountain represented a person who … Read More

To Be Whole

I had an insatiable desire for the Holy. I remember, as a teenager, reading Christian scripture and declaring with James and John; Yes, Jesus, I am ready to drink from your cup. Later, I was not nearly as eager to be … Read More


Because pioneering draws me, I have experience in leaving. Over the years, I have found remembering this one thing helpful. When I make a change, all people connected to my change also have to make changes, changes they did not … Read More

Getting Hooked

Lightning flashed and thunder cracked. Shortly after, sirens blared, calling us inside, away from the debris sailing over our once safe playground. Now we would face danger of another kind, getting hooked into each other’s dramas. When we missed recess … Read More

Colorful Possibillities

On some level, we need answers. They are the guardrails for our next steps. But as we demand conclusiveness, we avoid faith, which eventually opens us to colorful possibilities. Rather than looking at assessment results as defining a persona, and … Read More


Authenticity is the thread that weaves through the entirety of my life’s work. Being authentic can mean doing the hard, persevering work. It may require confrontation or making significant changes, like leaving destructive situations. Bullying blocks our freedom to be appropriately … Read More

Live Beyond

In a ten-year period, I sat with over a thousand men and women, in one-on-one coaching sessions. During that time, I found assessment tools disarming, in generously giving the other a starting language to live beyond. Obviously, I saw several patterns … Read More